This is a system that helps you to find out patterns about who people are and how their personality and emotions work. This takes a different perspective to help you to understand who you should date and who you might not want to get with.
Enneagrams and Personalities
Enneagrams have a type and an essence with the personality. The essence is what goes deep inside of your soul. This is your ego and your personality and things that you might bury and not want to face. Enneagrams see the personality through genetics and through behaviors that you learned even as a child or an infant. This is the things that you used to survive and the things that were rewarded for you which changed your personality. This will show you how two things work together to help you understand yourself and others more.
As you deal with things like relationships and stress, you see that you might go back to old behaviors that you have had in your life. These are patterns that make you act different from who you really are. These patterns come from your Enneagram. As you disconnect from your essence, you will see that you will lose the connection of who you are.
When you feel that you are a certain type of Enneagram, you can look at your essence and find out the truth of your spiritual self and the patterns that you learned as a child and how these things make you react and make you expect certain things from yourself and others.
Enneagram Type
You can look online and find an Enneagram test that you can figure out your Enneagram type. Once you figure out your type, you can use it to find out how to develop yourself personally and to guide you through things that are happening on your journey.
Why Is Understanding Enneagrams Important?
Once you understand your Enneagram type, you can understand yourself better. You might find that you need to wake up in your life and your soul and get your essence working again. This knowledge will help you to do that.
Enneagrams and Compatibility
Once you connect with your essence you can find that you can understand yourself and be at peace as to who you are and why you connect with other people. You can use this to help you understand your relationships and to form new friendships.
- Type 1: Reformer
This is a person that finds value and has high integrity. They will do what they can to see the world in the way that it is, bad, good, right, and wrong. They have strong moral judgements, and they want to show the world that they can have integrity as well. They have self-control and are rational.
Being a Type 1
This kind of person might be someone that will make things happen in relationship. Relationships can seem exciting, but you might be disconnected from your real self and that means that you aren’t showing who you are. You might judge others, but you are also judging yourself even secretly. This can make you feel lonely and critical, angry, and controlling.
Partner of Type 1
You can see changes in your partner, and this is the essence of who they are. Instead of being upset and defensive, you have to learn to be compassionate and caring. It is important that you don’t expect them to be perfect and that you remind them that you want to hear what they say.
Compatibility of Type 1
These are people that need to have someone that values their ideas and that helps them to reach into their inner child. This type is most compatible with type 2 and type 7. They will be drawn to people that bring beauty to life and the 2’s are people that are easy to talk to and open. They will encourage each other and learn to relax. 7’s will show them that they can be adventurous and take time away from hard things happening in life.
- Type 2: Helper
This is someone that is loving and connected. They express their love to others, and they give love freely. They like to stay in their comfort zone and are sensitive, but they also have strong energy. They connect with nature and have unconditional love but don’t feel that they can love others enough. They often give up on helping others.
Being a Type 2
This is someone that will connect with themselves deeply. They will want to give you things in the relationship and won’t expect anything back. When you lose touch with who you are, you have to handle your emotions and you have to see that you need love. Don’t push yourself aside for others or you will become clingy and resentful.
Partner of Type 2
This is a person hat is passive-aggressive and will make you feel guilty. This happens because they aren’t meeting their own needs and deny that. They need to focus on their own needs instead of the needs of their partner all the time.
Compatibility for Type 2
They are best put together with a type 3 and type 8. They will need someone that won’t take advantage of them and someone that they can be intimate with since they are so giving.
- Type 3: Achiever
This is someone that is authentic, and they are true to themselves. They see equal as being good and they want to feel valuable. They want to connect with their essence, and they can lose touch by being fearful.
Being a Type 3
If you’re this person, you might be successful and look to the future. You can awaken your essence and when you do you will have better relationships. You will be disconnected if you fear things and if you don’t fulfill what you need to do. Seeking approval from others will damage your relationships.
Partner of Type 3
You can’t get caught up in who you are, and you have to learn to communicate what is best for you. Change your attitude to your situations and be happy with what you can do. Be vulnerable and see that your needs are important.
Compatibility of Type 3
This type will feel most compatible with type 9 because they need someone that will love them with the same amount of love that they give.
- Type 4: Individualist
This is a person that looks at who they are and embraces it. They have their own identity, and they are unique. They are sensitive and mindful.
Being a Type 4
This is someone that will be creative and expressive. It is an honest and self-reflective sign, and it can be hard to be open in relationships because they are sensitive and dramatic.
Partner of a Type 4
You will have strong emotions and you will be someone that needs to see the issues. You need to embrace your emotions and share them. You need to make sure that you aren’t dismissing what is going on and that you are being kind and sharing your thoughts.
Compatibility of Type 4
This is someone that will match most with a 5 or 9 type because they will bring balance in their relationships. They will have ideas that go beyond reality.
- Type 5: Investigator
This is someone that understands that they need knowledge. They want to grow and be strong and they will often avoid their feelings so that they don’t feel helpless.
Being a Type 5
This is someone that is innovative and someone that sees patterns. They can solve problems good but when they aren’t in their essence, they can become detached and withdrawn. This can be risky and can cause them to miss out on things in life.
Compatibility of Type 5
This is someone that will work best with a type 1 or a type 5 because they have to have a relationship that is built on trust and dependability. They will be attracted to type 2’s because they are opposites.
- Type 6: Loyalist
This is a type that is secure, and they can reach their real essence when they are calm and confident in themselves. They can handle situations then and will be healthy and grounded.
Being a Type 6
This is someone that is connected with themselves and someone that will lose touch with the essence, and this will cause their security to be gone. They will become stressed and anxious and won’t be able to safeguard their hearts. If they trust themselves, they will have security that they need.
Partner of a Type 6
This is someone that will be steady, and they will remain loyal to you no matter what. See how similar you are to them and trust the feelings that you have for them. You can find your inner guide and do this through meditation.
Compatibility for Type 6
This is someone that is often anxious, and they will fit best with 6’s and 9’s. They fit together because they are the most stable of the type and are easy to trust.
- Type 7: Enthusiast
This is a person that will stay in the present moment, and they will do what it takes to be satisfied and to meet their needs.
Being a Type 7
This is someone that likes to be busy and someone that likes to take chances and go on adventures. They are creative and fun, but they can get distracted easily. They are people that don’t like to be trapped in life or in relationships and they will search for freedom and even chase after it if they need to.
This kind of person will have to see that things aren’t always better than what they have, and they need to make sure not to rush out to change things. They can limit the choices that they make and find balance between themselves and the things that they have that make them fun to be around. Since they are positive, they love to be challenged.
Compatibility of Type 7
This type is most compatible with 3’s, 9’s and y’s. They are both assertive and positive and they make good relationships with others. They provide shelter and they will be attracted to each other because of their positive personality.
- Type 8: Challenger
This is a person that is alive and powerful. They are able to deal with their fear and if they feel vulnerable, they will need to be protected.
Being a Type 8
This is someone that is confident, and they are able to make good decisions in their life. They can be disconnected from their essence, and this can make them dominate and to confront things wrongly. They will sometimes feel that they have to face obstacles, and this can cause them to feel harmed or violated.
Partners to Type 8
If you have a partner that is a type 9 then you will find that they might be controlling and hard to get along with. Learn to respect them and appreciate them when they are being kind. They might be emotional and sad sometimes and they might be indecisive, but this isn’t because they are weak. Remind them that they are loved and cared for.
Compatibility of Type 8
This is the type that has a soft side and one that will be in a special bond if they find a type 6 that is loyal and responsible.
- Type 9: Peacemaker
This is a person that is peaceful, and they want to have harmony in their life. They hate feeling that they are stressed or that they aren’t connected to other people, and this can cause conflicts.
Being a Type 9
If you’re a type 9 then you are probably an Aquarius. This is a person that will show up and be receptive but when they are disconnected from their essence then get depressed and stressed. They might feel overwhelmed and separated and they will need to meet their needs.
Partners with a Type 9
This person will need to be patient and be able to reassure their partner. They will be stable and dependable, and they can connect with people around them.
Compatibility of Type 9
This is a person that will work best with a type 1 because they will be able to help them to not be stressed all the time.
Talking to an Enneagram Coach
This is a person that is spiritual, and they can help you to know what is going on in your life and why. They can help you to connect with yourself and to learn about the things that are important to you. When they work with you, they will show you the tools that they have to make themselves and their relationships better.
Find someone that will give you an Enneagram reading, and you can find out how you can improve your own life and the lives of those around you.